Being optimistic is not always easy, but it can be achieved if we introduce a series of habits in our day to day. Because it is true that some have an innate predisposition to be more positive and others to be more negative, but even if you are one of the second, this can change using the right tools and acquiring healthy habits that favor a more optimistic attitude.
Next I am going to tell you 5 things that can help you see things from a more positive point of view.
Being grateful and knowing how to give value to what surrounds us is key to living a more optimistic life. This does not mean that we are not ambitious, that we do not seek to have more (not only material) and of better quality, but one has to believe that he is capable of achieving what he sets out to do, that he is worthy of everything with which dreams, and a positive attitude towards oneself and towards life will give us that possibility of believing that we can.
Knowing how to positively assess our current situation and give thanks for it is essential to start the day on the right foot, to feel good.
A great tool that I have used myself and that I recommend without batting an eye is this journal called “The 5 minute journal”. It consists in that every morning you write what you are grateful for, positive affirmations about yourself and reasons (no matter how small, everything counts) why you think today is going to be a good day.
This small action that takes us only 5 minutes, can transform your life, as it will help you focus your thoughts on the good, starting the day with joy and enthusiasm..
The only thing we have insurance in this life is the here and now, and being aware of it is winning in life.
We think that we have a whole life ahead of us, that the people we love also have a life ahead of us, but is that so? Who knows? Who can assure you that you will be here tomorrow? Nobody can, and knowing that the only real thing is the present allows you to value each day as if it were special, it allows you to do things today, it helps you to give your best. All this leads to feeling better about yourself, which undoubtedly translates into a more positive life..
This is a reality based on the fact that human beings mimic what surrounds us, especially with people. We tend to conform to a certain extent to the people with whom we spend more time and unconsciously we adopt their way of thinking, we acquire the same lifestyle and attitude towards it, etc..
That is why it is important to analyze these people: do they bring you something good? Do they help you to believe in yourself? Are they happy when good things happen to you? Be honest with your answers, in the end you and only you are the beneficiaries or victims of the relationships you have with others.
It is essential to share our life with people who inspire us for the better, with people who bring us something good (in whatever sense).
Nowadays social networks are part of our day to day, that is why we must also monitor who we follow and analyze them: do they bring you something good? How do you feel after seeing your videos or photos?
If you are discouraged by seeing how “well” others are doing on social media or “perfectly” designed realities, stop following that person.
Does that mean that I can't follow people who are doing well in life? No, quite the opposite in fact. It means that you are the owner of the information you consume through social networks, and therefore responsible for it. The best thing for your mental health is that you follow people who motivate you to improve, to grow, who give you something good and / or useful, people who make you feel good. Obviously this is relative to each one, but it is common to all that when we see things that inspire us something good, they motivate us to do things better and this undoubtedly makes us feel good and, once again, see things from a more optimistic point of view.
I would like to share an excerpt from one of my bedside books, "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz:
Imagine waking up early in the morning, brimming with excitement and energy for a new day. […] So while you have breakfast, you have a strong argument with your partner. You become enraged, and you expend a great deal of your personal power on the anger you express. After the discussion, you feel exhausted, and all you want to do is go away and cry. […] Every day we wake up with a certain amount of mental, emotional and physical energy that we expend during the day. If we allow our emotions to consume our energy, we will have none left to change our life or to give to others. "
That is why it is so important to invest our energy well, in what is worth spending it and in what is not. Which discussions are worth having and which ones are not.
We spend all our energy on things and people, and if we want to achieve a life that pleases us, in which we feel comfortable, we have to be able to manage that energy and know when to use it. Negative people, anger that leads to nothing, unnecessary annoyances, worrying ahead of time ... All this means wasting our energy so that we run out of it to use it in what really matters to us, in what gives us something good and that we will allow to grow and improve.
Feeling good depends on us and it is something we have to work on daily. It is our duty to acquire healthy habits that make us feel good: eat healthy, exercise, not leave things for tomorrow, be ourselves ... But even if it is easier to lie on the couch to watch Netflix instead of finishing that what you have to do, you know you feel much better when you have done what you should do.