12 + 1 things I can ask my therapist

You've been thinking about it for a while. You feel that there is something there that is not letting you advance in life, something that makes you uncomfortable, sometimes more, sometimes less, perhaps seasonally, but that does not let you be happy.

You have tried to overcome this problem on your own but after several attempts you have not been able. It is clear that nyou need to find a professionalHim, someone to help you with this difficulty.

So once and for all you've made up your mind and ... you're going to start therapy!!

If this is your case, congratulations, because you have taken a step in the right direction.

Although many times it seems that one should know how to solve emotional problems by oneself, the psychological difficulties or relationship problems, there are times when the smartest thing to do is consult a professional who can help us.

But once the decision is made, we are faced with a second problem: how to choose well?

I leave you here 12 + 1 ideas to consider, things that you can ask your future therapist (or perhaps the current one) and that will help you choose the best option.

Let's go there!

You have the right to ask your therapist ...

• 1. That is formed and have experience in the problem that concerns me. And if not, guide me where to go.

• 2. Make me feel comfortable, heard and understood at all times.

• 3. Don't panic even if I tell you harsh things. May I be able to contain my anguish and my worries.

• 4. Be patient if I take a while or find it difficult to talk about some topics. Respect my rhythm and give me permission not to talk about something if I am not yet ready to do so.

• 5. That does not open any wound of my life if later you will not be able to help me close it.

• 6. Always be sincere. That he does not tell me things that do not fit with what he is really thinking because I will notice it and I will feel bad.

• 7. Keep me informed at all times which is the route to follow. Tell me where we are in therapy, what is the next step, what can I expect, and how long ...

• 8. Keep it humble and refer me to another partner if we see that the therapy is not progressing and think that another professional can help me better.

• 9. That you can also tell me some of your things, of their life. I would like to think that he is a person like me who has also had a good, bad time, to know what he likes, if he has a family ...

• 10. That we can have moments of humor, and relaxed talk in therapies. That not everything is talking about the problems.

• 11. Make it affectionate, even if it is serious (one thing does not take away the other).

• 12. Be understanding if I screw up or have a relapse.

• 12 + 1. Do not lengthen therapy unnecessarily and let me try to walk alone, as soon as I think I'm ready to do it.

If your therapist responds to these characteristics, congratulations! I can assure you that you will be in good hands.

And if not, one important thing that we sometimes forget: We have every right to change. Believe it or not, there is someone there who is ready right now to help you with what happens to you. It's just a matter of insisting a little more.

Because in therapy, as in love, you don't always get it right the first time ...