Has it ever happened to you that you feel like you don't fit in?
Are there problems that you thought were solved and after a while they reappear? Maybe you don't know how to use the correct approach to overcome some situations.
The personal growth expert Lise Bourbeau, with her book "the five wounds that prevent being oneself" shows us that all physical, emotional or mental problems come from five important sources of pain in childhood: rejection, abandonment , humiliation, betrayal and injustice. Thanks to the carefully detailed description of these internal wounds, and the masks that we have designed in order not to see or feel, it is possible to identify the true cause of a certain problem in our life..
Lise Bourbeau defines 5 main wounds that correspond in turn to 5 masks: rejection, abandonment, humiliation, betrayal and injustice. Corresponding to these 5 wounds, there are the following 5 masks: the fugitive, the dependent, the masochist, the dominator, and the rigid.
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The adult who has this wound lived experiences of rejection in his childhood and will tend to reject himself and others, he will also reject pleasant and successful experiences due to the deep feeling of internal emptiness and for having the erroneous belief of being "undeserving" . He blames others for being rejected and without being aware of it, it is he who isolates himself thus creating his vicious circle.
Loneliness becomes the worst fear of those who experienced abandonment in childhood. And his wound becomes his paradox: “Whoever experienced abandonment will tend to abandon projects and couples, until they become aware of their lack and become responsible for their life and loneliness. And think: "I abandon you, before being abandoned by you".
Adults who had experiences of all kinds of abuse, including sexual abuse, or experienced humiliation, comparisons or were ridiculed, shamed for their physical appearance, for their attitudes and / or behaviors during their childhood, often carry this burden on their shoulders and the Most of the time they are insecure, timid and indecisive beings who in the depths of their being feel guilty and do not believe they have elemental rights, and may even doubt their right to exist.
The adult with a betrayal wound will be an inveterate distrustful one, since he does not allow himself to trust anything or anyone. His greatest fear is lies and he will unconsciously seek to get involved in situations in which he will be irretrievably betrayed. Fulfilling the prophecy that he himself decreed: "Trust no one, everyone betrays you." Most of those who experience jealousy had experiences of betrayal in their childhood.
Experiencing inequity is the worst anger of those who are injured by injustice, and it is possible to identify those who have experienced it in their childhood by observing the disproportionate and neurotic reactions to some unfair situation. All people at some point have lived or witnessed unfair situations, however those who have the injury find it impossible to deal with it and their reactions tend to self-destruction. One of the most important characteristics is their great fear of being wrong and their tendency to seek perfection, which brings them a lot of frustration and their great challenge to heal is to seek flexibility and humility..
These masks define you physically and emotionally, do you want to know how? Below you have a list of the main characteristics, they do not have to be all in the same type, but most of them.
According to Lise Bourbeau, although we use these masks in a childish attempt to protect ourselves, paradoxically we attract the exact situations and people we need to feel rejected, abandoned, humiliated, betrayed or with injustice..
Luckily, healing our wounds and getting out of these masks is possible if:
I hope you are not sad because you have already identified your wound and your mask, because all this surely triggers some memories and emotions. Above all, do not be obsessed with this new found identity. You already know how you are, so cheer up, love yourself today, tomorrow and always… unconditionally. This is the best medicine.
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