5 questions to know if you are with the right person

When you consider whether or not you are with the right person, with whom to have a relationship that makes you truly happy, you often resort to a dialogue like this.

-You love Me?

-Yes and you to me?

-Very much.

It seems that if your partner loves you and you love him or her, it should be enough to clear up all doubts.

But the truth is that loving is a first step necessary but almost never enough to achieve a satisfactory long-term relationship.

If we both love each other, Why don't things flow the way they should Why are there more arguments than necessary, communication problems, jealousy, disagreements ... ?

The fear of looking a little deeper into the relationship leaves you many times (like me, like everyone) wandering around in this too simple dialogue.

But if you dare to dig a little deeper and ask yourself the right questions, you will discover a lot of things about the relationship and about yourself, that will give you a huge feeling of strength, and security.

As if the wind suddenly cleared the clouds and you saw the landscape much clearer.

You will be able to understand what may be failing, why, and make the decisions that you consider appropriate to achieve what you want and deserve.

The question now is: Iñaki, What are then those questions that I have to ask myself to clarify my doubts? To know if I'm with the right person?

Here I leave you with 5 of those that I consider important. But listen. Before answering them I will tell you that there are no good or bad answers. No one answers them all in the direction that is supposed to be "correct".

The important thing here is to do the reflection exercise. That is enough (and very brave) on your part. Remember: nothing bad can come from being honest with you and your feelings.

Agree? Let's go then for those questions:

1- Does my partner meet the expectations of what I want in a relationship?

Do you share my values, the way I see the world? We're compatible? Or is there something essential that I will not be able to accept? Is there something in his character, the way he behaves with me or with others that is intolerable to me??

2- Does the relationship I have make me great? Does it make me grow as a person?

Do I feel myself evolving, developing my potential? Or, on the contrary, do I feel smaller / or secluded, locked up…? Does my partner support me in my projects and desires?

3-Do I feel safe, physically and emotionally in my relationship with my partner??

Can I show my feelings without fear, trust, undress ... without fear of being hurt or hurt? Do we have intimacy, affection, tenderness ...? Do I feel cared for?

4- Is the relationship balanced?

Do I contribute as much as I receive? Or do I invest more love, energy, time, effort, money, tenderness ... and little by little I wear myself out because I give much more than I receive?

5- Do I admire my partner in any aspect of what he does, his way of being?

Do I feel admired / or by her?

You see? All these questions invite you to reflect on different aspects of the relationship that are very important..

Surely you have surprised yourself answering some in a way that you do not like at all, or maybe others you would not have considered! In any case, everything is fine.

The important thing is to open the door of sincerity, let out thoughts and emotions and they will know how to position themselves to show us the right way..

And we end as we began, with these questions:

-You love Me?

-Yes and you to me?

-Very much.

I have told you that they were not enough, but they were necessary. So don't stop doing them from time to time!!

And nothing more for today. I wish you a fantastic day and see you in the next post!!