Whatever the problem you have, it is your decision to choose the attitude you are going to take towards it. This idea is the common denominator that you can find in different areas. From the most basic psychology to most of the books on personal development, passing through the main precepts of religions such as Buddhism.
Problems are inevitable. However, changing your attitude towards them depends solely on you..
Getting to a state where you can give the right importance to problems is a process that can take many years. Various factors depend on your predisposition to be bitter in the face of life's problems.
A genetic combination or being born in a certain environment, with its respective learning process, are variables that will influence the perception of the world around you. Also the problems are not the same. An argument with a friend cannot be given the same importance as losing your job. By not going into talking about all the problems related to health, that is, the real problems.
As we mentioned before, changing your attitude so that problems affect you in their proper measure is a long process in most cases.. Reading self-help books or attending therapy are actions that can slowly modify the perception of the world around you.
However, on some occasions, various circumstances such as an accident or overcoming a long illness can become the triggers that allow you to change your attitude to problems literally overnight..
It is not my intention to become a Buddha who is not affected by anything. Nor do I want you to have an accident or a disease that makes you wake up. However, I would like to share with you a couple of tools that I usually use to gain perspective on a problem immediately.
The first tool to change your attitude towards problems is to quantify the number of months you have lived (341 in my case) and compare this figure with the number of months lived by a 90-year-old person (1080 months).
Being optimistic, and barring revolutionary medical advances, anyone can imagine reaching the age of 90. Those 90 years may seem too far from my current 28 years. However when I compare my 341 months with the supposed 1080 months the distance between the two numbers seems psychologically smaller.
There is no morbid purpose in wanting to perceive that my life is not as long as it seems. But it is precisely the fact of being aware of its transience that helps me gain perspective in the face of the problems that concern me at the present moment.. Instead of months, the calculation can also be done with weeks, days or even hours.
The second tool to change your attitude to problems is simply to watch the video below. It only lasts 3 minutes.
I hope you liked both tools. When you have a problem, try to put them into practice and immediately afterwards ask yourself if your perspective has changed in something and start living the here and now..
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