I have been about a month without writing any article. Lately I have had a lot of work and with the arrival of Easter I have not been able to write new posts with the usual frequency. As if that were not enough, the muses must have abandoned me because I have noticed a certain lack of inspiration.
However, inspiration comes when you least expect it, even on a Saturday at 3 in the morning after having been in communion all day.. And those moments must be taken advantage of, because as soon as they come as they go. So here I am again, sitting in front of the computer and trying to write a new article that I came up with thanks to receiving a review.
The criticism has been the following: "What a discovery .... you have to screw yourself. What a GARBAGE article and blog". In case anyone is curious, the person who has written this comment refers to the following article "How to become a regular early riser" Later I will go on to assess the comment, but first I prefer to get into the matter.
The human being is very intelligent for some things, however he leaves much to be desired for others. A person can receive a huge amount of positive comments about their work but if they receive only 1 negative comment, that comment will be the one that you retain the longest in your memory.
I have a friend who works as a cook in a good restaurant. He recently told me that if one day he serves 200 diners and 199 of them congratulate him on the meal and only one person complains, my friend will go to bed thinking about the person who has complained.
I like to find the evolutionary and adaptive sense to our behavior. That has been one of the reasons that has led me to study psychology. However, it is very difficult for me to understand why the human being focuses so much on adversity and pays less attention to positives.
My chef friend seeks perfection and that is how it should be when you have a client behind you who pays for your services. However, perfection does not exist and if you try to please everyone, you run the risk that what you offer loses its authentic essence and is diluted.
If you have a business, restaurant, blog or whatever, you must stay true to your original idea when you get good results. People are different and if you change the essence of what you have created simply because you have received (negative) criticism from a minority, you will doom yourself to failure..
Continuing with the restaurant example. I love going to good restaurants, even if the economy doesn't always allow it. I am one of those who likes to try new things and the more elaborate and exotic the better. However, my girlfriend is the complete opposite of me. He likes what I call "basic food". If you serve a steak, it must be well done and at most contain french fries.. No sirloin steak with goose patés or Pedro Ximenez reductions.
If I give you the choice between a restaurant with signature cuisine for 50 euros a place setting or a normal pizzeria, you will choose the pizzeria without any doubt. No matter how good the signature restaurant is, it will never be able to satisfy my girlfriend since it is a type of cuisine that she does not like. Should this restaurant then change its business model?
Perhaps the example is somewhat forced since you can always add more normal things to the letter, but I think the example is understood. If over time they begin to add other types of food to attract other types of customers, it is possible the label of "signature cuisine" will gradually disappear from said restaurant. In other words, its original service is gradually being diluted..
In the case of a restaurant this could work since the more people eat the better the business will go. Although it would be necessary to consider if what is sought is that they eat few and expensive or many and cheap.
Leaving aside the issue of restoration, I am going to comment on the criticism they have made about my article. The truth is that it has taken me by surprise. After a year and a half with the blog, I think it is the first negative comment I receive. I think the surprise is due more to a lack of habit. So please, from now on, whatever you see that you don't like to tell me bluntly.
I need to get used to negative comments. When I received the comment, the first thing I did was look for the article to which it referred. Curiously, it is the only article on the blog that has not been written directly by me, in fact it is a translation by Steve Pavlina.
That has disappointed me a bit, as I was hoping to find something of my own and try to find out what has been so upsetting that person. Negative reviews are very constructive and you should value them. However, you must flee from those criticisms that lack respect. These criticisms are useless because the person who is making them has a destructive attitude rather than a constructive one..
Nothing can be created from what is born of destruction. Destructive criticism does not help you improve. On the contrary, if you do not learn to build a barrier that protects you from them, they can lead to demotivation. Although now that I am thinking about it, the criticism that they have made me has led me to create this article. It's really all about a mental attitude to how you take things. Constructive criticism helps you improve.
Another thing that surprises me is the fact that people waste time commenting on something they didn't like. If you go to a restaurant and the food is bad, I see it normal for you to complain because after all you are paying for it. However, complain about a blog? Escapes my understanding.
The Internet is full of real garbage. Many times I have wasted time reading very bad things, however I get nothing by commenting on each and every one of the things that I read and I don't like them except to keep wasting more time. A blog is like your own home and you decorate it however you want. If you go down the street and see a house that you do not like, surely you do not ring the bell to say "damn what an ugly house you have".
Well, to finish I am writing to you, unknown person who has complained. I don't think you're reading this, yet I really appreciate your comment as it has inspired me to write this article. You are still one of my muses in disguise 🙂
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