The Ego is a small piece of a person's Being. Also known as mask, identity, personality. It is the way we learn to cover ourselves and feel "safe", the weapon with which we play and fight in this scenario of life. I think that we are born pure and essential and we build our ego as we interact with our environment, that we have to learn to protect ourselves, that we have to relate to others in a certain way.
To a certain extent, it is an adaptive process that we have and that turns us into social beings. The problem comes when we believe that we are, we identify with it and with the magnitude that existence itself becomes, we feel as if we were that grain of sand.
Phrases like: "I am like this", "and what other way is there to do this?" ... denote from my point of view a strong identification with the ego, believing the person totally related to their beliefs, values and judgments, and as if after these there was nothing else and the rest were wrong.
Also when we firmly defend our point of view, for fear of being collapsed, it would be an example that we are defending an internal structure that, if it falls apart, would leave us with a perhaps devastating void. And this is how teams, sides, parties, barriers are created ... anything that separates us from each other and makes us feel different from those around us (normally this process is accompanied by an air of superiority or inferiority).
From time to time life comes and, necessarily, brings us some experience that is inevitably linked to a shaking of these structures with which we believe so much. It can be a death, a separation, a sudden change ... intense experiences that suddenly make us realize that what we thought we controlled, what we defended so much and so much, can come to nothing.
The absence of identity happens in those moments in which everything falls, from outside and from within, and perhaps nothing that served is no longer useful. It can be a very hard experience, because there is nowhere to be caught and, at the same time, a revealing opportunity for profound changes. It is a time to ask ourselves even more strongly questions such as: Who am I? What do I do here? Am I really who I thought I was or who I have been told I should be? Among others that each one can be dictated by their nature that, in experiences like these, awakens more conscious.
The absence of identity is a proposal of humility that life makes us. I always prefer to listen to a person who is silent; who knows how to wait peacefully to hear everyone's opinion to add something, or not. I like to hear advice from those who have a clean look, who do not need to show to be, who transmit only with their presence that they have had to experience emptiness enough times to have learned that silence, attentive listening and patience are the best teachers.
Who already Is, has freed himself and escapes from any chain that may condition his Being. He simply flies ... and flows.
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