The human arises from the intertwining of the genetic dimension of homo-sapiens-sapiens and the culture of human society, in the particular human becoming that involves living as human beings among human beings. We are conceived homo-sapiens-sapiens and we become human in the process of living as human beings, by living as members of a human social community (Maturana, 1990).
The capacity for social coexistence arises as we grow in the validation of self-acceptance - that is, in the acceptance of the other. That is, we have the capacity to live in love if we grow in love. On the other hand, we can also learn indifference, distrust and hatred, but when this takes place, social life ends, coexistence ends, and humanity ends..
Human beings are intrinsically loving and we can easily verify this by observing what happens when we deprive ourselves of love. Love is the dynamic bodily disposition that constitutes in us the operationality of the actions of coexistence in mutual acceptance in any particular domain of relationships with other human beings - and not only. As relational beings, we are animals that have an evolutionary history focused on conserving our way of living in love..
Such a way of living is founded on an existential coherence that focuses on tenderness, caress, prolonged sexual intimacy, sharing and cooperation..
Living in language arises in the evolution of this story, which is none other than that of the conversation of the hominid way of living, constituting the operational possibility that the consensual behavioral coordinations of living together are recursively involved until generating coordinations of behavioral coordinations consensual, as a way of life that is preserved generation after generation.
That is to say, it does so in the relational and interactional flow that intertwines the coordinations of consensual behavioral coordinations of languageing with the emotion of primates, constituting what we call talking. It is this living in conversation that constitutes the human, as a way of life that is preserved generation after generation in the learning of children and that defines our present lineage. Human beings are, therefore, the present of a history of consensual coexistence in which conversation emerges as a consequence of the intimacy of living in mutual acceptance..
In other words, human beings are children of love. And this is so so that the normal development of a human child requires the mutual acceptance of bodily interactions with its mother. In the biology of love, what counts is the operationality of mutual acceptance (Maturana & Verden-Zöller, 2017).
How we interact with another has to do with our emotions because our emotions specify at each moment the domain of actions in which we are at that moment. When a mother pays attention to the future of her son or daughter or is attentive to the result of some action while interacting with the child, in reality the encounter in the interaction does not take place, since her emotion is not in the encounter but in something different - the future or the result of something.
When these disagreements become the norm, the flow of interactions is hampered and the child becomes invisible to his mother. In the measure in which the child is seen and welcomed in the present of an intimate bodily contact in total acceptance by the mother, the mother emerges as another I in the realization of that same mutual acceptance and opens space to a social dynamic of mutual acceptance in coexistence.
An infantile epigenesis that leads to self-acceptance, leads to the acceptance of others as legitimate beings in close coexistence. For a boy or girl to grow in social awareness and acceptance of the other, they must grow in awareness of their own corporality in the acceptance of themselves.
The conversations in which we participate throughout our lives and very particularly in our childhood constitute the background that defines the course of our changes as well as the scope of possibilities in which our becoming as human beings occurs - therefore, as a society..
BIBLIOGRAPHIC REFERENCES:
Maturana, H. (1990) When does the Human being arise? Reflections on an Austin article. Arch. Biol. Med. Exp. 23, 273 - 275: Chile
Maturana, H. & Verden-Zöller, G. (2017) Love and Play - Forgotten Foundations of the Human. 7to Edition. JC Sáez Editor Spa: Chile
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