"An emotionally blocked person is intellectually blocked"
Change, inherent in life, and necessary, is not always positively managed for our benefit. Many people prefer "Bad acquaintance than good to know", precisely because of this fear of change.
This objective reality led me to introduce the uncertainty as an element on which to reflect experientially.
Have you ever felt paralyzed by a situation?
Public speaking, the fear of touching a dog, the fear of heights, an unexpected situation in which you don't know what to do, one of those situations "Earth swallow me, I wish I wasn't here now "... the truth is that although we all live in situations of this kind, do we get a relatively pleasant taste in our mouths from the experience? Or does something unpleasant remove us? How do we feel when we experience something that is not we like it and that we also don't expect it to happen? The difference lies in how do we deal with that situation.
When something "strikes us" without a doubt it is for and for something. Running away is an option, of course. Run away, get paralyzed, blocked, or respond by "attacking". We can physically attack if the danger is real or we can react in a "defensive attacking" attitude when it comes to conversations. We can flee denying the obvious, flee really and physically, flee by not involving yourself in the situation ... there are many ways to flee. This is not the question.
The question is Do you choose to run away? Or do you choose to get to know yourself more and find out what is going on inside you that makes the situation uncomfortable for you? And above all ... what is the use of finding out.
In these situations that block us emotionally there is an intellectual correspondence, our intellectual functions do not perform correctly, in fact they go to the background. Being aware of what is happening to us and what has brought us to this point positions us in the role of an actor, not a spectator. It positions us at the point of action. Knowing what happens and why, gives us the power of decision.
There is a scientific basis for this change. Do you want to meet her?
The species that survives is not the strongest but the one that best adapts (Darwin)
Our brain has two options: activate the "survival" mode or the "adaptation" mode.
In the second case, our brain uses and interprets everything it experiences to best adapt to the situation. All our senses are put on alert, our "mental map" is no longer valid, and it is at this moment when we have to appreciate and know the valuable opportunity we have to learn in the face of uncertainty.
Our brain changes its functioning to satisfactorily resolve the new situation, increasing the blood supply to certain parts of it to facilitate this learning. Ideas arise, inspiration… we feel that nervousness that accompanies new activities. Always in a pleasant way.
However, What happens when we feel uncomfortable with change, with uncertainty, with the unexpected that we live and from which we want to escape, but also we cannot?
When we feel this way, our brain goes into "survival mode".
And attention, this is very dangerous. When our brain perceives a danger, be it real or subjective, it only has three options: attack, flight or block.
Mental schemes such as thinking about a thought that worries me or internal dialogues with ourselves of a destructive nature ("I wish I was not living this", "Why does this have to happen to me?" deserve this? ") activate survival mode.
Do you know what happens then in the brain? The parties responsible for creativity, reflection, negotiation, analysis, are left without blood supply. Why? There are other parts of the body that under survival mode urgently need extra blood and energy supply: The muscular system is the maximum receptor of energy and blood supply..
The scientific evidence that the functional magnetic resonance imaging procedure they show us that the brain is activated in exactly the same way when the threat is a real physical danger as when it is not. That is, when those non-constructive, ruminant thoughts, When that feeling of helplessness and inability to face a situation is a reality within me, survival mode is activated exactly the same as when we experience a real and physical threat.
Our body removes blood and energy from those systems that are expendable to concentrate on the muscular system. Our body prepares for flight, attack or blockade.
In addition, our body begins to secrete adrenaline, noradrenaline and cortisol. Do you realize that our thoughts change our chemistry? That's when i turn irritable, irascible, negative ...
But also, if this alertness is maintained over time, do you realize that systems such as digestive or immune they will be unprotected?
How many times has a state of concern generated digestive disorders? Do you think it is a coincidence?
How many times have you lived through times when you could live with the flu virus on duty and it did not affect you? Do you also think it is a coincidence?
I strongly believe in the need to stop and observe our attitude and our relationship With the change. I am convinced that the energy, time and effort that we can invest in getting to know each other a little more and better will bring us great benefits. To us, our family and our social and professional environment.
The key is not to focus on what I want to avoid but on what I want to achieve.
What do you think?
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