Death and mourning, a natural process

Alexander Pearson
Death and mourning, a natural process

Death as a natural process

Few people come to accept death as a natural and normal process in life and those who do, probably have a happier life

Death is an unknown step in our existence and only those who have gone through an experience on the verge of death have the knowledge to know that the feeling that accompanies death is comfortable. The experiences lived by these people who, at some point, were close to perishing coincide in a pleasant sensation.

The fear of death inhibits our life because many acts are not carried out thinking about the danger they carry. We become weak, catastrophic because we do not understand to what extent the great decision to divest ourselves of our life is made, often believing that it is not fair. We spend half our lives invoking the forgiveness of a God or solving old faults in order to have the grant of more time. But time for what? So that our exhausted body continues to live this reality.

Each human will have a different philosophy of life, with their beliefs and religions and with this I do not intend to show myself to be aware of the truth because, among other things, I am not, but I do want to point to your interior because its promotion creates security and confidence and consequently, a more painless life.

True affection does not consist in mourning the process of death but in figuring out how to get out of grief.

That feeling that haunts us in the face of the death of a loved one is what we call “grief”. When a loved one dies, we feel at first lost, treated unfairly, because we have been abruptly ripped from their side. We reject the painful reality as if it were a nightmare and when our beloved woke up, he was alive again. This process is our defense mechanism so that the I that we inhabit does not suffer so much. We think of a thousand different ways to deny it, mentally going through the past. But in this process of pain and grief we come to a recognition of the painful reality that evolves towards our own reinsertion into the life we ​​live, keeping its memory in our mind but advancing in the reconstruction of our own existence.

Grief in the dying process

Grief is a necessary and natural process to heal our mind and is used whenever we lose something or someone we love. We need to understand and accept our feelings about death, to incorporate the belief that it is a natural process in a life and that its meaning has more to do with renewal and beginning than with ending or punishment. It is a natural process that leads us to a new awakening, because there is something inside you that tells you so and that we call the soul, the one that houses your physical body and that is invisible and dimensionless. This thought will provide security and keep fear of that mysterious experience away..

The attitude we have towards death depends a lot on our environment, both cultural and family. Our convictions have been inherited or learned from what we hear and it is, as we mature and become adults, that we often question those beliefs so installed in our being.

Faced with any situation, the worst that can happen is death itself and this is a totally natural fact, which makes emotions such as anxiety or depression unnecessary..

The subject of death has been studied a lot in the different civilizations that are part of our Universe because the subject is an unknown for the human being. Many have agreed to speak of sudden death due to the helplessness or hopelessness of the human being. Martin Seligman wrote the most data on the subject, observing it in both humans and animals..

It seems that when humans or animals realize that their actions lose efficacy, that there is no longer hope, they become more susceptible to the process called Death. We lose control over events and this leads us to perish.

Some situations that have generated what we call helplessness are: depressive reaction due to a very close loss such as the death of a mother, uncontrollable situations such as concentration camps after a war, affliction, etc..

The steps that are repeated in helplessness are: loss of control, depression, hopelessness and unexpected death. It is something like a suicide but without pulling the trigger or taking any action to achieve it. It is like abandoning oneself while waiting for death.

To close this reflection we are going to cite a case of defenselessness in animals, specifically in a macaque cub, studied by Dr. I. Charles Kaufman that can be found literally in Martin EP Seligman's book “Defenselessness” Ed. Debate (p. 243-244):

“The first death occurred in one of the cubs that had been born before, with an age of five months and seven days. He died on the ninth day of being separated from his mother. The autopsy did not reveal any pathology that could explain his death. The puppy manifested a picture of agitation first and depression later, a sharp decrease in its play and isolation from other animals, ending up dying suddenly. "

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