Know the children's obligations at home and in the classroom is important, as it is one of the best ways to educate and instill good values. In this article I will explain some of the most important obligations and responsibilities divided by age groups..
Nowadays it is very common to hear that parents who have a child at home complain that they do not help, do not pick up what they mess up, do not behave well at school ... This behavior can influence the child's life and be extrapolated to other contexts and situations such as school.
If you do not start from a young age to give him responsibilities and obligations, it is very likely that when he grows up it will be difficult for him to internalize this type of duties. The problem we usually have is that we do not know exactly what they can or cannot do and at what ages.
Since the children did not ask to be conceived and it is the parents who decided to have them, the children do not have to pay a cost to their parents.
Parents do not have the right to ask their children to pay for their "investment", either monetarily or demanding that "in return" they be supported in their old age.
This mentality would only lead to discomfort for children, not enjoying life, family conflicts and in extreme cases to child abuse or neglect..
Giving responsibilities and obligations in childhood should be seen as something positive so that when they are adults, children know how to function alone, be independent and autonomous.
Children are the result of adult decisions, and adults must be aware that their choices have consequences.
When facing this type of situation as parents, many times the question comes to mind as to whether what we are asking of our child is according to his / her age.
It is normal for us to ask ourselves these questions because something we have to keep in mind is that we can only demand from the child what he is capable of doing and he will only be able to do it if we take into account the different stages of his development.
Here are the tasks that you could do at home divided by your age group:
Children at this age can work through mandates and prohibitions, therefore an adult has to be with them while the action is being carried out.
Due to the young age of the child, he is only able to work under the supervision of an adult and does not distinguish why he does something right or wrong.
The activities they can do are: put and collect the table napkins, water the flowers, put their slippers in their place, etc..
Namely, simple and clear activities for those that do not need much effort.
Children at this stage of development often act through rewards and punishments. Normally, they observe the behavior of the adults around them to later imitate it in the situations that arise..
At this age, they are able to have their things organized so we can ask them to keep their room tidy to a certain extent.
You can also continue to help set the table, but not just the napkins this time. Although he has a little more autonomy, it is important that the adult accompany him in the different activities he performs.
At this age, it is important that we trust them and allow them to carry out some activities at home alone, activities that since they were little we have been introducing them little by little, such as setting the table, tidying up their room a little more ...
The child at this age will want to please and serve the adult, therefore, they will have responsible initiatives. In addition, as in the previous stage, it will continue to imitate the actions of adults in the different contexts in which it is related.
When the child is already this age, we can let him / her participate in household tasks that require more responsibility, such as finding what they need to do some exercise, clean the dust, prepare clothes for school, etc..
From this age, you can assimilate some rules and respect them, it also awakens the sense of intentionality. However, he still needs the adult to tell him what is or is not correct in his behavior.
It is capable of fulfilling the orders given to it without any problem. You can also manage the money you are given and start saving. You can move through the neighborhoods that are known to you and are close to home such as the school, the house of a friend ...
He still continues to imitate the adult, so it is important that our behaviors are in accordance with the rules that we impose on them.
At this age he begins to have more independence, that is, he begins to be more autonomous. Also depending on your intentions, you can control your impulses.
He is able to control his time and his activities, so he can already organize himself, in addition he usually controls the money that his parents provide him as payment.
This will allow us to send you actions such as: go to school alone, take a bath or even prepare breakfast.
He is quite autonomous and is able to organize his materials, his clothes and even his savings. At this age you can take care of the housework that we propose. Likes to be rewarded for their actions.
He has the ability to know when he does something wrong and even know the consequences that these actions will have.
He also has the sense of responsibility acquired, so he will try to fulfill his obligations correctly.
They are the first years of adolescence in which they will begin to be more rebellious and to have priority for their group of friends.
At this age it is important to let the children know who has authority in the home -the parents- and that certain rules must be respected.
The most important responsibilities will be studying - going to school - helping with household chores (setting the table, tidying up her room, throwing out the trash ...), and if she has started to go out, getting home at the time agreed with her parents.
At this age the adolescent will have to follow the same rules as at 13-15 years, being especially important to start teaching the discipline.
To avoid conflicts, the rules will have to be verbally communicated or even written down. Teens can be delegated tasks of more responsibility such as shopping at the supermarket or other errands that teach them to function.
On the other hand, for the safety of adolescents, it is important to control the times of entry and exit from the home, and have them located.
However, bullying with too much control will be negative and will lead to the adolescent not wanting to be in contact with the parents.
If the adolescent is out with friends, one solution is to ask him / her to call or text at a certain time to say that he / she is okay. That way you will do it voluntarily.
Here is a summary table of the activities they can do for each stage:
There are many more responsibilities and obligations that the minor can do to help out at home.
I have numbered some as an example so that you can get an idea of the exercises they can do depending on the age.
Next, we are going to present in stages the responsibilities and obligations of the child in the school context:
They are able to obey the orders of their teacher. On some occasions, he is responsible for the objects or material that he takes to school from home.
Lastly, she has the ability to wait her turn in class when the teacher is busy with another classmate..
You can run errands inside the school, and even from the inside out or the other way around. That is, we can communicate with the teacher through it or even through annotations that are placed in her backpack or in any of her materials..
Children of this age like to do homework to display at home, although you need instructions to do things right.
It is important that we give them positive reinforcement of these activities in order to develop their feeling of competence..
He is able to organize his school supplies as well as his backpack. Therefore, it is necessary that you have a schedule to do it in order to create habits and routines. You still need instructions on the tasks that adults propose.
Time can be allocated if an adult supervises you and is responsible for homework. It is important that we allow you to distribute your time even though we advise and control you.
At school, he usually enjoys his class and his classmates, so he feels good about what he does.
In addition, he is able to prepare his materials and tries to get to school on time. He also accepts discipline without difficulty and conforms to class rules.
Teachers can send you helpful social assignments. At this age, he usually wants to do his homework quickly to be able to play, so he is still not very responsible in his studies and needs vigilance.
Finally, say that you think on your own and are not satisfied with any question so you usually work better in a group.
In general, they are usually responsible for their tasks and duties. He is also critical of the teaching staff and is motivated by studies. Finally, he expresses curiosity about the knowledge of the physical and social environment.
Usually shows great concern for grades and exams. He also rejects tasks that cause fatigue, continues to like to learn and works better in a group.
Below, as a summary, I present the responsibilities and obligations that children have at school based on their age group:
If at home we work on the sense of responsibility and obligation, the children will not have any difficulty in carrying out those at school, because as you can see they go hand in hand.
It is important that as parents and educators, we adapt to the stage of development in which the child is at the time of requiring them to fulfill their obligations and responsibilities both at school and at home.
Although we have listed the activities that can be carried out classified by age, each child is different and progresses at their own pace.
Therefore, it is important that we adapt to each child individually so that they can carry out the activities without feelings of frustration and can affect their self-esteem..
As parents we must be consistent with both our actions and our promises. That is, the child will imitate our behavior in the different contexts that he has to develop, so we have to respect the rules that we have imposed on him and comply with them..
What other responsibilities or obligations do you think children should have? Leave your opinion in the comments!
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