Sometimes it is thought that happy couples they are only found in Disney movies. That romantic and lasting love is an ideal that is difficult to translate into reality. Even more so in a world with a high percentage of separations or divorces.
It seems that the ideal resists, But isn't it worth trying to be part of that 10%? That can only be possible if you make it possible. For this you have to dedicate time and effort. It is like a plant, if you water it every day and add fertilizer it grows strong and healthy.
The positive you get from such an effort is too great a reward to go un-attempted. Do you dare to try and be part of that 10%?
Flirting is not something reserved exclusively for teenagers or the beginning of a relationship; It should be something regular and with no expiration date. You are never too old to flirt with your partner. When was the last time you told your partner how sexy she is in that dress?
Happy couples often tell each other how handsome their partner is, hint at each other frequently, grab their partner from behind while he / she is washing the dishes, stroking their back, etc..
They are constantly in a game of tenderness, insinuations and provocations that makes them keep the flame, feel attractive towards the other and feel alive.
If you want, you can have it with your partner. Couples who have it is because they have made an effort to maintain the passion between them, not letting it fade.
If you think you have lost passion with your partner, no matter how old you are, and you want to regain it, make your partner feel how attractive it is to you. Insinuate yourself with subtlety, make him feel that he is unique to you and relive the fun and exciting game of flirting again.
Happy couples have games that only they and no one else know.
Games like calling each other a certain way that would be very cheesy to someone else's ears. Fun games that only amuse them. Dances reserved for privacy (and thank goodness because it could be a bit embarrassing).
And the reality is, these cheesy and embarrassing games are exciting to them, and it's great that they are. We could say that it is like your identity mark in the couple.
In fact, when happy couples are asked what they would most miss about their partner, it is precisely these games of their own that, fortunately, only they know..
Sometimes it happens that couples do not share a common future. That is, they avoid talking about future plans, waiting for things to go as they go..
This is often linked to fear of commitment. The fear of commitment has always existed, but it is becoming more palpable in our society as we are evolving into an increasingly individualistic society..
This increasingly individualistic society is characterized by prioritizing individual projects: a good education, traveling, working abroad for a while, etc. leaving common projects in the background.
Better or worse? Neither better nor worse, different, and therefore we must adapt to these new social and cultural changes.
However, in the realm of the couple, focusing a lot on individual projects has implications for the couple relationship. For this you must prioritize what is most important to you?
Happy couples are a pack, and as a pack they plan their future as a couple, not as individual beings.
This is not to say that each couple does not have their individuality. It would be a big mistake.
It means that each of the couple plans together with the other whatever happens to them: the future in their personal career, the education of their children, the car they buy, economic issues, etc..
And this is because you have chosen your partner as your life partner and, therefore, you must work as a team.
As I said in the previous point, being a pack and doing teamwork does not mean depending on your partner.
Apart from planning the future together and being a team, each of you must have your own personal space. Happy couples each have their own hobbies, friendships and moments of intimacy.
It is important that each of you do things individually: sports, photography, meeting friends, etc. That also allows you to enjoy certain things without the other, individually or sharing it with other people.
Doing activities and having hobbies on your own will also make your partner more interesting and make them feel that you do not depend on him / her to feel good and have fun..
If you feel that you depend on your partner and that without him / her you would be nobody or that you could not get ahead, you must change this situation and learn to fend for yourself and find your personal space.
However different you may be, there are always common interests. You simply may not have discovered them.
If a priori you see that you do not have any interest in common with your partner, you can create that common interest. It's about loosening up a bit and wanting to create it.
It is important to be willing to learn from the other.
Perhaps, interests that the other has that a priori do not interest you, it may be that you become interested. You just have to be open-minded and see what your partner can bring you.
Happy couples take an interest in each other's hobbies and interests and try to try them out. Maybe they discover something about themselves that they did not know and that can be exciting.
For example, in my case, I have always considered myself a denial in the drawing. With which I have never been interested in learning to draw. However, my partner loves to draw and is really good at it..
One day I told him that I wanted to learn how to draw charcoal and asked him to teach me. The first drawing I did was frankly horrible, a fact that confirmed my poor artistic gifts.
But I kept trying and every time I did it better.
Now I enjoy as a child drawing charcoal. And although I know that I will probably not become a good charcoal draftsman, I love knowing that something that I thought was impossible in me, I have been able to make it possible.
Now we draw together and it is an incredible moment. So open your mind and cultivate common interests. You will enrich yourselves as people and as a couple.
This key is essential in a good relationship. Listening is a skill, and if you find it difficult you should work hard to learn it. Hearing is not the same as listening.
To listen to your partner you have to do it actively, looking into her eyes, nodding from time to time to let her see that you are aware of him / her and ask to learn more about what he / she is explaining to you.
It is essential that you feel important to your partner and that you make your partner feel that he is important to you. And this is done, above all, through active listening.
Happy couples listen to each other carefully. They are interested in what the other is telling them. They are interested in their feelings, their point of view.
Happy couples feel calm because they know that when they get home after a long day, their partner will listen to them and support them..
Happy couples focus more on the good things in their partner. If they focused more on the bad ones, they would constantly argue and an increasingly negative climate would be generated..
Happy couples verbalize to the other what they like about him / her, they are happy when the other does something well and when they get a challenge or a victory.
This causes a climate of positivism, optimism and a desire to evolve that is fed back. It makes both members of the couple gain self-esteem, security and confidence in themselves and in the other.
That doesn't mean that happy couples don't tell each other bad things. Of course, they talk about what they don't like about their partner. But they will always do it in a constructive way with the aim of improving their relationship..
One of the most important things about happy couples is that they have tried to improve those aspects in which they limped and could change for the better, and they have learned to laugh at those aspects that they do not like about their partner but that are inevitably part of their life. person.
Surely you will agree with me that bedtime is a time of day when you can only say one thing: Finally!!
It is a unique moment in which you feel very comfortable as you finally give way to relax. It is also a time when you review your day, and it is also a time to have physical contact with your partner..
Being able to enjoy the end of your day lying comfortably in bed hugging your partner and feeling the contact with his body, is a moment that happy couples value very positively..
It does not matter if one gets up earlier or later, or if one falls asleep before the other, the important thing is to feel that there is someone who loves you sleeping next to you.
Hugs have numerous mental and physical benefits: it reduces stress and anxiety, lowers blood pressure, improves the immune system, has cardiovascular benefits, reduces the risk of dementia, improves mood, rejuvenates the body, relaxes the muscles, raises self-esteem and builds confidence and security.
As you can see, hugs have multiple benefits, therefore, why not do it?
Happy couples have hugging built into their lives and hug each other naturally. In addition, a hug always leads to a kiss, and a kiss can lead to much more..
If you've lost the habit of hugging your partner, it's just a matter of getting.
At first it may seem something forced and prepared but little by little, and as you do it, you will give them more frequently and spontaneity because you will incorporate it as something natural in your lives..
Happy couples know that before their wishes and projects they will feel supported by the other.
They have the confidence and tranquility of being able to share their wishes and aspirations without feeling judged and receiving the support they need at that moment in order to develop what they have in mind..
As I have said before, each member of the couple must have their personal and individual projects, but at the same time, they have to feel that their projects are important to the other. They are, therefore, individual projects that must be shared.
In happy couples, there is not one who feels more and the other less, but both have managed to make both feel equally important to the other.
And this is achieved by evaluating at all times what the other tries to do, create and develop. And even more, they try to enhance the qualities and abilities that the other has by helping each other to develop as people..
And what other things do you think happy couples do?
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