The current society in which we live, on many occasions becomes the society of stress. We rush everywhere, we want to get to everything on time, we don't like to miss opportunities and we transfer this way of doing and thinking to the education we impart to our children.
We try to get them to have everything they want and ask of us, we stuff them with toys and we get them used to getting practically everything they want..
In most children's birthday celebrations, the protagonist ends up with an average of 15 to 20 gifts. They are usually children between 4 and 10 years old and consider it as something "normal". Do we really believe that a child of these ages is capable of processing and assimilating that amount of information?
We dedicate ourselves to “preparing” them from a very young age to be “something in life”. We set high expectations that they have to satisfy, so that many times from a very early age they lengthen their school day with all kinds of extracurricular activities.
From kindergarten, they face a hard “work” day on a daily basis that at a very early age separates them from their family and their main attachment figure (usually the mother) to immerse them in a strange and demanding environment that instills concepts and them. prepares to "become".
In some cases, children remain in the school environment from 8 in the morning until 6 in the afternoon, in a day full of subjects, learning and stimuli of all kinds that bombard them at all hours.
Where is the time to relax, to rest, to play, in short to be a child and enjoy?
The environment that surrounds our children most of the day can be extremely stressful, cold and empty for an evolving being and is a breeding ground for future mental disorders or behavioral or learning problems.
The excess of stimuli and activities to be carried out hinders the proper processing of information and causes a stress that accumulates and that can have repercussions on the development of future psychological problems. In fact, the high correlation between excess stress during childhood and the increase in psychological problems has been demonstrated.
On more than one occasion I have heard a parent explain in detail their son's busy schedule, adding with pride that “he had no day off” and that every afternoon he filled it with the odd extracurricular activity, to “prepare” him for Her future.
On other occasions, some parents added an activity to their son's calendar because he had not passed a certain grade in that subject at school, and that although the child did not like it too much, "he had to improve and reach excellent".
These children are forced to grow more hurriedly, they lose interest quickly in anything new and in the environment, they try to adapt to the high expectations their parents place of them and to assume responsibilities for which they are not yet ready.
As they grow, the feeling will be established in them that they are not good enough and that they have to give more (increased self-demand). Your self-esteem will be damaged and you may develop guilt complex for not living up to what is expected of him.
The excess of information, stimulation, speed and structuring which we subject to childhood can lead to a number of psychological illnesses, in addition to killing the innate creativity that we all possess. We must protect them in addition to illness and damage from possible emotional and mental imbalance.
Children should have time to explore, to get bored, to create and above all to run and play to release tension and worries.
Each child has their own pace of development and learning, it is important to respect it and not overwhelm it.
In addition, we all have subjects that we like more than others. It is much more important motivate you in those subjects in which you excel to reinforce those that cost you the most. Sometimes it is better to lower expectations about their school performance. We will be giving him the message that we believe in him and we support him and his self-esteem will be strengthened.
Instead of doing extracurricular activities "to kill time", they will be much more motivated to spend time with their parents or do some joint activity with them in an environment where they can find each other and communicate..
Definitively return to the childhood of yesteryear and especially when it comes to being with our children "connecting with our inner child".
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