Who else, who less, we will be in this world for about 75 years. A day has 24 hours, therefore a year has 8760 hours, which adds up to a total of 657,000 hours of life.
Luisa feels a little discomfort in her foot. From time to time when he walks he feels a prick, but he lets it be. Over time, the prick continues to become more and more painful., but he gets used to that pain thinking that it will pass. Three years pass and Luisa's husband realizes that she is limping a little, she realizes at that moment that her hip hurts, and she goes to the doctor. The diagnosis is moderately serious, and Luisa requires an operation and to be on a crutch for a year.
If we take this to the world of mental health, I think it is perfectly understood. We are used to enduring psychic pain, what's more, we have many mental strategies to endure it. In Luisa's case, if we change the leg, for… Luisa felt down one day… the end of the story, the crutch, turns into medication.
But today there is still a very big difference between the enormous value and attention we pay to our physical health and the fear, prejudice and taboo that exists towards psychological or emotional ailments.
In Luisa's story, if the ailment were physical, it is likely that she would be helped by relatives or unknown persons, they would give her the position in the bus, they would worry about her situation, they would accompany her to places where she could not go alone, etc..
However, if he complains of anxiety, sadness, discouragement, guilt, it could happen that his environment requires him to get out of that situation with expressions such as "fortunately you have nothing physical", "if you have everything, do not complain", "that they are nonsense of yours ”,“ you are here again ”, and endless judgments towards that person without understanding that a psychic or soul ailment can become much more limiting and painful than a physical one, since the unresolved mental issue is going to be violently expressed through the body through our expressed or unexpressed emotions.
And of course, given this lack of acceptance and understanding of seeing mental ailments as something normal, people tend to hide them, making them our secret, because we are afraid to show what makes us weak, often with facades that show the opposite.
It is common to hear in consultation "I do not tell anyone that I go to the psychologist." Fortunately, all this is changing little by little. The following question comes to mind… Are we weak? I will try to answer it.
You have to understand that in one way or another the problems of anxiety, depression, worries, etc. They are not our “fault”, after all, “disorders” are born from going beyond the average of what is expected in a society.
A corseted, rigid and very demanding society, in which the confusion between what is really necessary and what has value, have created needs and expectations that often hang by a thread, and are far from many realities that we live. And here appears the concept of Happiness, It seems that we are in the era of finding Happiness.
Have you ever stopped to think how hard this is? I invite you to reflect deeply on what are the characteristics of Happiness that try to make us believe and I encourage you to think about the following: "Happiness already exists, it is not dependent on anything, it already exists" we just have to change our system of values and expectations. Within all this, logically, without us wanting it or looking for it, there is a fine line between having worries and not having them, and an excess of this will lead to anxieties, discouragement and frustrations.
It is absolutely normal to go through bad times and have a "crisis" without it there would be no growth, each "crisis" is therefore a vital experience that can help us improve. We could say that crises are great opportunities to break all that system of beliefs and routines in which I am immersed and take a step towards a greater amplitude of myself, a step towards freedom. And one fact, freedom has little to do with that abstract concept of Happiness.
And how can psychology help?
The only thing psychology offers is that the suffering of people is the least possible in these stages of change and crisis. Deciding to go for help at a certain point can save you a lot of suffering in the long run.
I show you two interesting facts here:
40% of the Spanish population suffers from anxiety or depression and only half is treated. The suicide rate is on the rise, reaching its all-time high in 2014 with 10.7 suicides per day, a total of 3,970 suicides in the year.
What I mean by this?
The emotional and psychic pains are there, and they are more frequent than it seems. Low moods, frustrations etc. are part of our society as well as other health problems.
What happens then?
Mental health is not yet considered as health, or at least not on a par with other types of health. A person can really spend more money on a dentist throughout their life than thinking about going to a psychologist if they have a problem. The tendency will be to endure, I endure this situation.
Here I pose two final questions.
Why, being able to be fine, did we decide to endure the suffering?
If we are going to live 657,000 hours in our life, why not dedicate 10 of those hours (sessions) to invest so that the rest of the hours of my life are better and of higher quality?
Realize that there is only one opportunity, to check with curiosity and love if I will be able to build myself as another type of person, freer of pain, broader. That only opportunity is the time we will be on this planet, those 60-80 years ...
There are people who, out of shame, pride, rigid beliefs, mistrust, will decide to live their time on earth in the same way, that will give them security. I invite you with this text to give yourself that opportunity and time to understand what is happening to you and live lighter and this requires tremendous responsibility, courage and above all love.
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