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No one is really safe from both sides, because at some point in our lives, even in a pious way, we have criticized and vice versa. It is logical that when living in society we do not always agree with what the neighbor does, another thing is that we spend the day criticizing, because if it is like that, friend, you really have a problem. It is not the same to criticize, than to live a life that does not correspond to us.
People's life is as it is. Nobody has the right to decide for others and less to interfere in their lives. You can always criticize but keeping the line that separates criticism from the life of others. But why do we criticize? Do we carry it in our DNA? Well, the best ... How to accept a criticism? Not everyone knows how to do it. Do we actually have to accept all the criticism? In any case, criticism is part of our society, from the neighbor's house to the lives of famous people.
To begin with, criticism can be negative or constructive and, therefore, the first thing is to differentiate which person makes it and with what possible intention. People do not always criticize in order to disqualify, and therefore a criticism that at first seems inappropriate to us may be useful to improve certain aspects, attitudes and even behaviors of which we were not aware and that if we modify, it may be that we go well, both individually and socially. You have to think that the person who criticizes has their own perception and point of view and, whether appropriate or not, they are watching us from the outside. They have their prism and wrong or not there it is.
Therefore, if you have already learned to differentiate types of criticism, if it is positive and constructive, accept it without palliative, analyze and study how to put it into practice, listen to what they tell you and respect your turn to speak..
Obviously, if the criticism is negative with the intention of doing harm, our self-esteem will be affected, in these cases it will be a good idea to put a barrier and ignore the disqualification, not to enter the dialectical game and above all to feel safe of ourselves. It is much better not to counterattack with reproaches, because if we answer we will seem offended and no that does not suit us. If you are one of those who cannot remain silent, answer but agreeing with him and saying, well it may be ... you will see the face that this person has.
If the criticism is positive and you think it can help you improve, ask the person who made it for more details, that is, let him argue because he thinks that of you and explain, according to him, how you could improve. It does not mean that you have to put it into practice later, but it may be useful to take their arguments into account.
We don't always know when we are going to be criticized. So anticipate and when you go to say or do something, be alert, but calmly. It will not catch you so by surprise and it will even make you funny when it happens ... and then you will think ... I knew it.
Everyone criticizes, but not all criticize the same, nor are they the same people. For example: If a technology professional criticizes your way of dealing with him, try to get something positive from his comments, since that person is dedicated to it. You learn a lot from other people, and even if they accidentally criticize you, sometimes they are helping you without realizing it. The same, he even does you a favor. Exploit their knowledge, take advantage.
Well, if you do it, let it be for the better, in moderation and positively, with respect and education. Don't use criticism to belittle or break your frustrations. If you are going to say something, let it be better than silence, because once your vicious tongue has kicked in, there may be no going back. Try not to criticize from behind, although we know that it will not always be this way. And if you do, watch how you do it, because you could be the same bargaining chip and you wouldn't like it, right?
Our criticism consists in reproaching others for not having the qualities that we think we have. Jules Renard (1864-1910) French writer and playwright
David Alvarez. Therapist
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